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when to tell her I'm a virgin
Replies: 26Last Post Sep. 10 7:45am by RachLeigh13
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fantazia


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What do you mean you don't look like a virgin, virgins don't have 1 standard look.

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TigressaLynnMae


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Being a virgin BY CHOICE does relate because one of the many assumptions a girl can make about a virgin guy is that he is a virgin because he has no luck with girls, nobody likes him, he's gay, etc.  I have heard all kinds of stuff.  That is why I have mentioned that its not really THAT necessary to tell a girl about it.

The reason it may be necessary is that it would signify inexperience, and places where the other party, experienced as they may be, may have to teach the lacking party. I know my guy knew I was a virgin, by choice, because I told him, that way, he knew where I would fault, and where I would need help.

Again, the assumptions those girls make are based upon petty media and stereotype. Those girls don't exist, in my world, thank the Goddess Above.

No, virginity does not matter to me. Virginity is just virginity. I lost mine, to a great guy, and, even though he hurt me, and didn't love me, as I love him, I don't regret it. Now, though, I wouldn't have sex, with anyone that didn't love me back, as I loved them,but the past is the past. You can't change it.

Why would anyone look down on anyone who decides to wait? Gods, I would hate to live where you live, where ignorant people reside, apparently...

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Yep, bad experiences can suck of course but they do teach us a lot.  I hope you are just fine, well, you do sound like you are fine now :) .

Ignorant people are EVERYWHERE.  The topic of a virgin guy has come out on this forum and many many people pretty much look down on a guy who's a virgin.  Oh well, you don't think that way? cool.


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TigressaLynnMae


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Ignorant people are EVERYWHERE.  The topic of a virgin guy has come out on this forum and many many people pretty much look down on a guy who's a virgin.  Oh well, you don't think that way? cool.

Ignorant people are only there, if you let them be there. I don't know one person who acts upon emotions and feelings the way you're describing. Virginity is virginity is virginity.


Yep, bad experiences can suck of course but they do teach us a lot.  I hope you are just fine, well, you do sound like you are fine now :) .

We learn from our mistakes. 'cept, I don't believe it was ever a mistake.



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JellyBean1


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Being a virgin is not bad. If she likes you it shouldnt bother her. It should be fun, she gets to teachs you something if she isnt a virgin.
Somehow just start talking about someone else sex life, and then at a good time, just some say that you are a virgin, just make sure she doesnt think its cuz you couldnt get it..its that you didnt want to at the time!
Sometimes its good to say that you were waiting for someone great and that you rly like, and that you like her and dont want to lose her over this.

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Drop your ego and you will find out just how charming you are to girls.  There is no replacement for honesty.  Once you start living your life and dealing with truth, as not a flaw, your entire life will have a revolutionary meaning change.  It is so refreshing to look someone in the eyes and say, "As difficult as this is to tell you I have never had sex before."   "In fact you are the only girl that I have ever felt this comfortable with(only if true)....hope you accept me for who I am."

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TigressaLynnMae


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"As difficult as this is to tell you I have never had sex before."

Why would it be difficult?

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If I was with a boy and we were leading up to or about to have sex, the most I would want him to say is that he hasn't had a lot of experience. I don't need to know that he is a virgin and has never been in a girl before. This way I know that I need to help and lead him on and tell and show him what to do. I merely say "This is what I like or the way I like you to do it". Let him keep his masculine image and dignity.

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TigressaLynnMae


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Let him keep his masculine image and dignity

And, again, virginity does NOT define those images and dignity. The MAN defines those images and dignity!

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All my girl had to say wen i told her i was basically a virgin is "Well, Lets fix that then" and thats where all the fun began =)

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TigressaLynnMae


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I was a virgin, when I met my guy, and I told him that, not because he needed to know, but because with that, he could teach me the ways of sex, and guide me along that path, and help me out, where and when I needed help. :)

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If a guy I were dating told me he was a virgin, I'd pretty much be flattered. There's nothing to freak out over. If she's in to you, I don't think she'll care. You'll know when to tell her.  Honesty is very attractive.

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