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The Guide to Self Harmers - The Re-Write
Replies: 31Last Post Oct. 4 6:58pm by ManicD
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Quote: from 1993tash at 4:00 pm on May 31, 2008

this has took time 2 say but i do i wanna do it again but i stopped 4 my friends pll who knw r surprised Wat i do it wiv i was put on this by a friend my brother n sister n boyfriend say i should not talk 2 my friend who put me on here n they say i should not use this but after readin it yh it was but it was Worth it nd i had the time i knw why i self-harm nd the thing is gettin worst nd i jst wanna do it again but i dont wanna fail my friends tht asked me 2 stop  
i dont knw Wat 2 do

Them friends that asked you to stop, talk to them, they obviously care about you and want to keep you self harm free. Vent at them when things get tough.

Do yoruself a favour, get a online blog, block everyone from reading and and use it to vent into, say whatever you feel without anyone judging you, iit really does help.

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**New Section Added**

What Techniques are Available to Help them Stop?


Please read and comment

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Um....Reading This gave me tears. One of my really best friends cuts. She claims to be "sober" but she walks into school with long sleeves and new bandages around her wrists every week. I've tried to get her to stop since the Sixth Grade, (we are in eleventh now) I've broken some of these guidelines. I've gotten angry with her and even triggered her a couple of times.  I;ve gotten scared so many times, i thought i was going to have to go to her funeral. We aren't as good as friends anymore because i had to break off our friendship because i began cutting because i couldn't stop her. I have two long scars on my legs. So that proves that people do it to their legs. And cutting is a release, it's like a guilty pleasure. It's horrible but i've been there and now i know what to do.

11:46 am on June 5, 2008
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This topic is awesome.  Everything you described was perfect.
I don't really have any suggestions; it was that good. :D

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Thanks for posting this, it helps to know that there are other people out there understand where I'm coming from when I say I don't know why I cut, whether there's a reason or not and I'll go 'crazy' if I don't. I've cut for about a year and 7 months now and I told a friend of mine when it first started, it's kind of frustrating b/c someone would say the word 'cut' and she'll turn to me and whisper "You haven't lately, have you?" which DEFINATELY brings my confidence level down a few notches.  Thanks again for posting this.

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Thanks for posting this :]
I used to SI and I wish my parents and friends woud have seen this.

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You can't "treat" someone who self harms. They are living people not a "something". They have to want to stop hurting there selves. Sometimes they want to but can't stop other times they don't want to stop.You have to ask your friend that first.Do you want to quit?

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Quote: from ashleynicole600 at 2:18 am on Aug. 2, 2008

You can't "treat" someone who self harms. They are living people not a "something". They have to want to stop hurting there selves. Sometimes they want to but can't stop other times they don't want to stop.You have to ask your friend that first.Do you want to quit?



How do I get them to stop?

In short, you can't!!! Not unless they want to stop. Because the addiction is on a psychological level as much as a physical level stopping needs the harmer to want to stop and have the will power to stop.


i believe i have already said this and changed the word "treat" for something more sutible

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This makes me cry. Were all to weak.

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This is a very good, well-written guide.
I am a self-harmer. Most times I do it because I'm depressed or very very angry. Other times I do it because it stops me from either thinking about/doing coke. And yet other times, because it helps me when I'm under a anxiety/panic attack.
I don't want to die. I've cut for 4 years now. It's a release for me.

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Id like to add another thing for why people self harm...I self harm to hurt the people around me so they can feel the pain Im going to. When they see me in the hospital it builds up so much sadness for my parents.

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Quote: from Klumbzy at 1:00 am on Sep. 4, 2008

Id like to add another thing for why people self harm...I self harm to hurt the people around me so they can feel the pain Im going to. When they see me in the hospital it builds up so much sadness for my parents.

Unfortunately, that form of self harm is classed as attention seeking self harm and is a completely different matter. This guide is written about self harm in people seeking self control, rather than external attention.

that in itself would be a whole different guide, Though i may try to add this fact into the introduction

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