The thing is, you don't have to decide right now whether or not you are in love with him and want to grow up together and get married and such.  It sounds like you have a really great friendship, that may one day become something else.  Beyond that, it sounds like you guys are considering the possibility of it becoming more than that.  People actually do that all the time.  It's just part of attraction.

The main thing to remember is that you don't have to feel pressured to make up your mind right now.  Keep on being good friends with him and keep on hanging out.  If you guys are comfortable with it (which it seems like the case) maybe you could talk a little bit more about how you feel about each other.  That might help to sort out your feelings a little.

For the time being, I think "half-liking" can kind of be interpreted as just being unsure about your feelings.  Like I said, there's nothing wrong with that right now.  You have plenty of time to let things sort themselves out.  Give this whole thing time.  I know that's easier said than done because you probably want to know where this is going now, but it's probably best not to rush into anything you are unsure of.

If you need to talk to anyone about this, or need help with anything else, don't hesitate to contact me.  I would be more than happy to help.

Take care.

-Isobel

Posted at 5:41 pm on Sep. 6, 2008

You would be doing nothing wrong by just telling him how you feel now.  In fact, its best that he knows before it gets too far.  You said this whole thing was a joke.  And thats true in my mind.

I noticed some "thinks" in there.  That tells me that you just don't know how you feel.  Think about it.  Do you see yourself with him?  Do you want to be with him?  I also realize that hes your best friend.  And because of this I believe you could act fast before it threatens the friendship.  Some guys just take it the wrong way.  Would he be like that?  You never really know.  Maybe thats all it has gotten to.  Maybe all he feels is "half like."  So telling him wouldn't really hurt him.

I really think its safe to just talk to him and straighten this out.  But first think about how you feel.  And then act.  If you find you like him, just continue to play it cool.  Let things just happen.  If you find you really don't like him like that, just go ahead and tell him.

Good luck; Contact me anytime.

~jamesish~

Posted at 3:04 pm on Sep. 6, 2008