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From: (Not Displayed) Received: 10:29 am on Sep. 5, 2008 Return to Inbox
Subject: My friend, ARGH!!
Me and my friend let's call him "bob", used to be super close. I mean almost gay close. He slept round my place- I often stayed over at his it just worked, we clicked and got on. But recently I find it awkward being around him and I can't put my finger on why that is? Like today it was the same again, all this week has been fine - we've been getting on. However we just had an argument and didn't talk to one another, then it was awkward between us - which I hate, so does he. However neither of us can stop it?p> I was meant to stay at his place tonight - however he blew me off for his ex. I just cbf.

I just don't know what do with it anymore?s it worth being his friend?

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There are all sorts of reasons as to why the two of you are having these uncomfortable moments, and I think the best thing that you two can do, is talk about it. Don't just "dump" him as a friend because the two of you have some rough moments, you have to talk to each other and find out why you're having the arguments and why it's awkward. Yes it'll also be awkward to talk to him about these things, but if you want the friendship to last then the communication has to be there. You guys obviously hate the awkwardness that is happening but in order to eliminate it you have to recognize the source and work on fixing it.

You guys also seem to have a good relationship if you're staying at each others place and I'm sure that you guys do things together. I really don't think that you want to throw away those good times together just because of what could be a petty argument.

Posted at 12:35 pm on Sep. 8, 2008

Hi!

This seems like a time when maybe a break is needed.  Even if its just a week or two.  It seems the friendship has gotten to a point where arguments are starting to happen and chances are, will continue to happen.  You feel awkward because you're just not used to having that staleness between you two.  And this is probably a case of either something happened or something isn't happening.  

In the friendship, think of something that has changed.  Something that was present in the beginning but now isn't or faded a bit.  Is it the excitement?  Is it the connection between you two?  You said he stayed with you and you stay with him, so maybe that energy is long longer there.

In the friendship, is there something that you want?  Do you want more than a friendship?  Don't just totally dismiss this.  You said, "almost gay close."  And that seems pretty strong to me.  If you want something more and hes not acting the way you would prefer, then you would start arguing.  And it would be over the smallest things.  Anything would irritate you.  So think about your feelings.  You might find the answer there.

Leaving you for his ex could of been just an effect of the argument.  It might not even be that bad.  Have you attempted to just talk to him about it?  Communication between you two will settle this.  Get all your feelings out in the open.  Leave it all on the table.  Talk to him about what will work and wont work.  And he can give you his opinions too.  This isn't worth losing a friend over.  But this could be just a rough patch.  Maybe hes going through something you don't know about.  Talking to him will find all these answers.

Best wishes, and PM me if you want to talk.

~jamesish~

Posted at 1:29 pm on Sep. 5, 2008

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